Wednesday, November 27, 2013

On Line Relations: Do They Really Affect Our Life

Internet affects our life very much. We all use Internet not only at our works, but at home too. We easily use on line dating sites, which bring their effect on our real relations. The culture of our relations is different in real life and in the Internet, so in real life we start to behave in a different way. It is very easy to have relations or affairs on line. There is no responsibility. It is always easier to hide your on line partner than a real person. The statistics says that usually those, who have to hide their on line relations, go to the net in the evening, when their spouses go to sleep. So, you can imajine how easy is it to hide your affairs, when they are not real. You can hide everything in the surface of the Internet. You even do not need any alibi for doing this. You do it when nobody sees you.

But there is a disputable uestion, which concerns on line dating. An amount of questions arise as the world of on line dating develops. Is it really necessary for us to have real relations, when we have them in the Internet? Or should we treat on line chatting as having sex with other person except your bride? Scientists made some researches of one of the chat rooms in the net, where heterosexuals chatted. So, the researces showed that people do not think of sex on line as of cheating. And it was a surprise that mostly women think in such away, but not men. But as the other research on the same topic tells us, that many people really consider such kind of relations cheating. Some people even tell us that they they sometimes like the dids, which they did on line, more then some things, which happened in their real lives. And in such cases people speak about some intimate relations with another person. We can even say that very often it happens so that people, who met on line and have on line relations are much closer then those, who are engaged in reality.

One more research has been made within the students of modern colleges. They were asked if they had ever took part in on line dating and relations and what do they think about it. The result were devided into two parts. The first part of students believe that even chatting with people on line may be cheating, and others are sure that it depends on the topic on your conversation whether it is cheating or not. But all in all students consider on line chatting and on line relations rather diversified and include sexualcand emotional satisfaction. Also emotional side of chatting was very important for many students, even more then sexual. It is easy to eplain: if there is lack of emotions in your real life, you go to on line relations, which can give youwhat you need.

It may seem for many f us that on line relations are based on emotions, which appear at both people in the process of chatting and communication. As the survey tells us, people, who has good experience of relations on line just shared the information about their human nature. Usually Internet relations are important and attractive for those, who has lack of these or those emotionsin their couple. It it is so you go to the net to search for what you need.


On line relations affect out real relations in a different way. There was a survey where 75 people were examined, part of them had on line relations and another part had real relations. The dynamic of both types of relations was examined. And surprisingly most people were more satisfied with internet relations rather then with their real partners. Also some people say that these relations were more important for them. But still there were people who admitted an interesting and important fact. Only a small part of people said that on line relation, which they had, affected the relations, which were real. Their stories, told after the xperiment, showed that their relations with the main partner became more calm and boring and the level of sexual activity has fallen down.


So, we found out that on line relations have a great impact on people and their partners. But if so, could they affect the society and how? The youngest generation tells that as we use computers and Inernet more and more, we forget about our responsibilities and relation in real life. Even the older generation tells the same thing. We can solve problems in the relation of real people instead of sitting in front of the monitor and chatting. But Internet takes our time and we do not want to loose our energy on real life's problems.

Certainly, cheating has always been a problem and it still exist. But we've already found out that any kind of on line relations affect our lives not less then real problems and affairs.

Monday, November 4, 2013

Are you ready to pay $500,000 for your online love story?

$500,000 (CAD) was the price that a Vancouver man paid for his love to an online scammer. The money he cashed in included a part of his retirement savings.

The police have started the investigation and even arrested a fraud who turned out to have operated this scam out of the capital of the UK. According the UK police, there is a slight possibility of recovering the money.

Canada's CBC News also joined the investigation. They reported about the man “Tony” (the pseudonym) who got acquainted with a man on one of dating sites. Very soon their friendly communication turned into torrid love affair which moved to Yahoo to be continued.


In some time Tony’s online love started writing messages about his urgent need in cash. He seemed to be in Malaysia without any access to money. In his messages the man complained about lack of cash to pay bribes to local authorities. Being deep in love, Tony was eager to give a hand to his online boyfriend. Even the huge amount of money (half a million dollars!!!) didn’t raise his concerns. Only some time later Tony started to suspect something unusual and made a decision to rebut the scam. He hired investigators to find the fraud. Thus, Tony’s online love turned out to be a band operating in the suburbs of London.


The high growth of popularity of online dating sites has caused the growth of online scams. Nowadays online dating is an accepted norm of our life. These sites usually appeal to people who prefer quick and easy meeting a potential partner.


Online scammers use human need in communication and love as a weapon to get money. They get acquainted with members of dating sites and social network offering them communication or even sex.

The increase of online dating sites causes the growth of online scammers who take advantage of needs and weaknesses of humanity.

Another thing that scammers hunt for is personal information that people post on their dating profiles. This is so called for identity theft and spear-phishing which has turned into a profitable business recently. The world knows the story about scammers who were imprisoned after netting over $1 million posing as military staff overseas.


Another popular trick that online scammers use to skunk is the story about life and death situation they turned out to be. One day a victim can get an email that their online partner has been stuck alone without any money in a foreign country. Moreover, he (she) has had difficulties with local authorities or has been robbed, thus, the only way out is if the victim send necessary amount of money urgently.


Tony is not the only one who took the bait. Every year unwary love-hunters lose as much as Tony did. Romance scams have created an enormous system of looking for victims on dating sites.

Thus, logging in on the next dating sites or starting a new online love story , make sure you want to be the next victim. An even you are certain that this person you chat every day is sure to be the Mr Right, never send any money to him. As soon as you get a letter like “ I’ll be very thankful to you if you send me some cash for plane tickets”, or “if you send us a few hundreds, we will free up a million dollars for you”, break any links to this person.

And even if it is the person you do know very well, check carefully if it is really he who is writing these emails to you. The only way to avoid being cheated by online scammers is to use your brains rather than feelings and emotions. Nothing can defend you better than a sceptical mind and caution.